tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15513876.post1504793628937361007..comments2024-02-12T09:07:37.691-06:00Comments on I am doing the best I can: Your kid is not that specialDawnhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12920042208198309201noreply@blogger.comBlogger24125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15513876.post-77309017528112122642011-02-11T17:10:11.607-06:002011-02-11T17:10:11.607-06:00Oh Yes, Mombshell.
Or you could just photocopy th...Oh Yes, Mombshell.<br /><br />Or you could just photocopy this and slide it into the envelopes....Dawnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12920042208198309201noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15513876.post-8985167971070386132011-02-11T16:57:36.446-06:002011-02-11T16:57:36.446-06:00Will you write my report cards?Will you write my report cards?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15513876.post-33753445586889976532011-02-11T11:38:53.328-06:002011-02-11T11:38:53.328-06:00I couldn't agree more.
We used to say, 'Y...I couldn't agree more.<br /><br />We used to say, 'Yes, of course. Your kid IS special...just as special as all the other kids are.'the new girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02947910641549198688noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15513876.post-83484970336068425642011-02-11T06:24:35.381-06:002011-02-11T06:24:35.381-06:00Thank you for this. See it all the time. Love your...Thank you for this. See it all the time. Love your writing!writewrdshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17832292393564058865noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15513876.post-13613442646047528362011-02-11T00:32:37.649-06:002011-02-11T00:32:37.649-06:00This weblog is being featured on Five Star Friday:...This weblog is being featured on Five Star Friday:<br />http://www.schmutzie.com/fivestarfriday/2011/2/11/five-star-fridays-137th-edition-is-brought-to-you-by-maya-an.htmlElan Morganhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03023867307505601913noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15513876.post-61735457089680088212011-02-10T23:55:12.040-06:002011-02-10T23:55:12.040-06:00So well said on so many levels. I'd like to sh...So well said on so many levels. I'd like to share this through my facebook, if you don't mind.Amirahttp://www.definemature.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15513876.post-8201695680090889912011-02-10T20:15:35.821-06:002011-02-10T20:15:35.821-06:00CCG - absolutely, you have my permission.
I keep ...CCG - absolutely, you have my permission.<br /><br />I keep waiting for the angry mob of Uber Moms to come and burn my blog down!Dawnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12920042208198309201noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15513876.post-75547217225520743842011-02-10T19:25:44.575-06:002011-02-10T19:25:44.575-06:00And I want to say to people--when your toilet back...And I want to say to people--when your toilet backs up, you are going to get someone who was probably classified as "not that smart." The person who fixes your car? Probably the same. We put our lives in the hands of people who were not in the sacred College Bound track and don't have degrees magna cum laude from the Ivies. And they usually do an excellent job.carolinagirl79https://www.blogger.com/profile/06284212448110505029noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15513876.post-60048893233300598152011-02-10T19:21:27.444-06:002011-02-10T19:21:27.444-06:00May I reprint this on my blog with a link to yours...May I reprint this on my blog with a link to yours and credit to you for writing this? It is so, so important and you say it so beautifully.carolinagirl79https://www.blogger.com/profile/06284212448110505029noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15513876.post-56541336540229423272011-02-10T18:52:11.436-06:002011-02-10T18:52:11.436-06:00THANK YOU!!
Now if everyone would just read this....THANK YOU!! <br />Now if everyone would just read this. I love that my kids are normal, that we are a normal family. No extra talents that take up precious family time. <br /><br />Nothing I hate more than listening to someone talk about how great their kids are...when they too are normal.<br /><br />I also see that sense of entitlement that does come when you give them everything. We know many kids that think they are "all that' because they are good at something, not great, just really, really good.Amyhttp://money4thisnot4that.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15513876.post-51896657775607257932011-02-10T16:56:42.107-06:002011-02-10T16:56:42.107-06:00So true! I often feel like I got the short end of ...So true! I often feel like I got the short end of the stick. I have normal kids. They aren't genius, athletic proteges, they're just them. I love them. I like them most of the time. I believe they will be grounded members of society. They'll need to be to compensate for the rest of their spoiled generation.BellyWoman's Ranthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06069047923512432439noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15513876.post-12489990789859030992011-02-10T14:29:52.400-06:002011-02-10T14:29:52.400-06:00Oops. I am NOT convinced my kid is going to be a ...Oops. I am NOT convinced my kid is going to be a world leader. My comment made NO sense without that tiny word.Cagey (Kelli Oliver George)https://www.blogger.com/profile/13691589813815058981noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15513876.post-36323886187535202632011-02-10T13:39:02.887-06:002011-02-10T13:39:02.887-06:00Thanks for this. I teach at the university level, ...Thanks for this. I teach at the university level, and I see it all the time. I loved the kid who complained to the dean that I flunked him in lab because I was racist against Asians. No, shitwit, I flunked you because you never showed up on time, your lab reports wound up more red than black when I finished grading them (and I had copies of them all when he claimed that he couldn't find him), he didn't follow basic lab safety and almost injured others and me, and, most egregiously, he couldn't talk to me without obsessively scratching his balls. It also helped that the highest grade in his section went to an Asian student.<br /><br />I was classed as "gifted" early on, but my mom didn't put up with crap. She wouldn't let them accelerate me more than one grade while still making sure that I got appropriate education, made sure that I socialized with people from many different backgrounds regularly, and had basic manners, decency, and dignity.<br /><br />Now that I'm pushing 40, my friends come from all different backgrounds, educational levels, and careers. IQ is a number that is often flawed, and there are many types of intelligence that it doesn't test for. Raising your kid to not recognize that does neither them nor the rest of the world any favors.yarnwhorehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02656281268081127680noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15513876.post-79202546857681095782011-02-10T12:14:28.460-06:002011-02-10T12:14:28.460-06:00Oh Jess, do I ever Know it....And I want to shake ...Oh Jess, do I ever Know it....And I want to shake the adults yelling "YOU ARE NOT HELPING!"<br /><br />Welcome Ben. One of the things I was chatting with Terrance about this afternoon was the idea that we are so opposed to sacrifice - or at least opposed to sacrifice that affects Us, individually. We are happy to cheer on others who sacrifice ( ie soldiers, nurses, teachers) but us, individually? Not so much.<br /><br />We recently had to tell Emily that we simply didn't have the extra cash for her to take an art and yoga class she wanted to take. We were a bit worried when her first reaction was to burst into tears and then Blame ME for not having a job ( so not bringing in extra money) then asking why I couldn't sell some of my Rugs. <br /><br />Explaining that she gets everything she Needs and that occasionally we have to tell her No to extras that she wants was really tough for me ( less so for Terrance) because I do want to give her everything. <br /><br />But a 12 year old yelling at me that I am not working hard enough to satisfy her desire for an art class?<br /><br />Not acceptable and Not the person I want to send out to the world.Dawnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12920042208198309201noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15513876.post-60019935162059235102011-02-10T11:36:24.408-06:002011-02-10T11:36:24.408-06:00I just found your blog through a friend and happil...I just found your blog through a friend and happily so. I couldn't agree more with what you've had to say as my wife is a teacher and I have worked with teens as a youth pastor and with their parents now in a senior pastor role. One of the most dangerous things we can do to kids and people in general is try to convince them they are awesome and endowed with inalienable right to do and be whatever they want - "The American Dream" is a farce. We are not good enough, smart enough, and many people will not like us for who we are and the sooner we can realize it ourselves and help our kids to do so as well the better off our society and world will be. Just do the best with the gifts and abilities you have been blessed with and forget expecting you are the best ever. No matter how good you are at something someone else will always be better than you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15513876.post-12003623243003948502011-02-10T11:26:17.277-06:002011-02-10T11:26:17.277-06:00My kids are in elementary school and I see this AL...My kids are in elementary school and I see this ALL THE TIME.<br /><br />It does not bode well for the kids in question.Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17308665452575511461noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15513876.post-51432828088667093162011-02-10T10:47:49.973-06:002011-02-10T10:47:49.973-06:00Erica - you know too well that the kids who may be...Erica - you know too well that the kids who may be academically more inclined are far too often those with shaky social skills. <br /><br />Pushing the academic at the expense of the social is deeply detrimental. What good is it if a child is a genius, but can't get along with peers? Or negotiate in a group? <br /><br />Our little "cult of the individual", particularly seen in Western society is not doing us as Species any good, whatsoever.Dawnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12920042208198309201noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15513876.post-41813767809631777212011-02-10T10:05:14.676-06:002011-02-10T10:05:14.676-06:00Best line (other than the poem) "Parents need...Best line (other than the poem) "Parents need to remember that WE are not our Children. We are simply the vessels through which they arrived."<br /><br />Indeed. 'nuff said!<br /><br />thanks Dawn!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15513876.post-17238240599235667982011-02-10T09:47:23.379-06:002011-02-10T09:47:23.379-06:00I'd buy that bumper sticker if you sold it:)
...I'd buy that bumper sticker if you sold it:)<br /><br />Well said Dawn, as you know I've seen lots of those "special" children and have had to work with those "special" parents as well. Sadly, some will never get it.<br /><br />~EricaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15513876.post-2594172723190293072011-02-10T09:06:51.753-06:002011-02-10T09:06:51.753-06:00Kelli - We Should Love our children. We Should bel...Kelli - We Should Love our children. We Should believe that they are smart and capable and will achieve great things. That is providing the Base from which they set forth. A good healthy self esteem is one of the cornerstones to resilience.<br /><br />I think it is when that spills over into irrational blindness to reality and/or the rights of others that I get really concerned. <br /><br />And Man, have I seen that - from preschool to University. And nothing good ever comes from it.<br /><br />AJ - How terrible, you know? To be perhaps 40 and realize that you are not the center of the universe? That other people have rights and opinions that are as valid as yours? Sadly some people never learn and so happily march all over other people's rights and opinions because they are so certain they are RIGHT.<br /><br />Maybe I should make bumper stickers - "My kid is a normal, average child at a normal average school"Dawnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12920042208198309201noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15513876.post-15428382370727652232011-02-10T08:00:35.418-06:002011-02-10T08:00:35.418-06:00What's funny, is that I have had these same th...What's funny, is that I have had these same thoughts about my own kid - like, I think he is a great kid, but I am convinced he is going to be a world leader and that I know damned well other people think he is just a normal kid, too then I feel all bad-like as in what the hell? I am supposed to think my kid is the BOMB and there be something wrong with me. <br />The end.<br /><br />Short story? LOVE THIS.Cagey (Kelli Oliver George)https://www.blogger.com/profile/13691589813815058981noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15513876.post-71265278529882778152011-02-10T07:59:14.746-06:002011-02-10T07:59:14.746-06:00The worst thing about overly fussing over a child ...The worst thing about overly fussing over a child is that eventually they'll get out into the world and realize on their own, "I'm not as special (smart, beautiful, etc.) as my parents always told me."<br /><br />A harsh lesson to be sure.Average Janehttp://averagejane.blogs.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15513876.post-43928435850830283112011-02-10T07:54:26.366-06:002011-02-10T07:54:26.366-06:00This is al so true and yet so few people are ready...This is al so true and yet so few people are ready to accept it. As a non child person (don't want, won't have) I get so fed up of hearing about "little Johnny knowing his alphabet and he's only 2!" etc etc. I like to respond with the fact that my husband (not me, I am no genius) beat his father at chess aged 3. That usually shuts them up.Bagladyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03997388396773480963noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15513876.post-8995353993689655432011-02-10T07:21:49.681-06:002011-02-10T07:21:49.681-06:00I think I love you. This was so well written and s...I think I love you. This was so well written and so necessary. I work at a University and see the end result of all these "special" children who think they are entitled to a $60,000/year job, that is only 9-5, M-F with 4 weeks vacation and a company car. That don't feel they should have to attend class if they don't want to and then don't understand why they failed. <br /><br />I work in the career services office and on Monday had a graduates MOTHER call me to rant about her son not being able to find a job. She has been sending his resume out everywhere! Hmmm, maybe that's the first problem right there.<br />I am sharing this with my colleagues and friends with children. <br /><br />Than you!Lisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11847941340374018140noreply@blogger.com