tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15513876.post2699921702125750917..comments2024-02-12T09:07:37.691-06:00Comments on I am doing the best I can: State of my UnionDawnhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12920042208198309201noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15513876.post-40739852202480015972010-08-13T17:39:17.189-05:002010-08-13T17:39:17.189-05:00I don't think that having separate bedrooms is...I don't think that having separate bedrooms is all that bad. Maybe you two need a break from each other, but it doesn't have to be forever. Just as being together isn't always forever. <br /><br />But I would caution to you to go slow, for your child's sake, and for your own. If there's not abuse or addiction, then see what's positive about your partner and about the partnership.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15513876.post-14725995329147629182010-08-11T22:17:22.118-05:002010-08-11T22:17:22.118-05:00I love this post. Every marriage is different and...I love this post. Every marriage is different and in order to repair a marriage you have to find what works for you. I often wonder if my ex and I had separated like you had and had our own space - would we still be together? (Ok, well that and if he didn't have a girlfriend on the side)<br /><br />HUGS to you. However it works out - you will be fine.Pamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08465817283609521767noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15513876.post-23883331395160002092010-08-11T15:16:09.935-05:002010-08-11T15:16:09.935-05:00This comment has been removed by the author.Dawnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12920042208198309201noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15513876.post-52128926808560977282010-08-11T15:16:09.407-05:002010-08-11T15:16:09.407-05:00Oh, I agree Frugal - There are some people for who...Oh, I agree Frugal - There are some people for whom this middle DMZ zone would not have worked. Some of it is our individual temperaments...some of it is what we both "expected" out of marriage. My husband has never been my best friend, for instance. I have other people who fill those roles so I never looked at him in that light.<br /><br />And I am not sure it was so much maturity as first finances that necessitated the stay. And my dogged determination to not end my marriage Hating the man I married.<br /><br />If there is only one thing I have learned is that Marriage is ovaries to the wall HARD and that I admire people who decide to divorce as much as I admire people people who stay married. Neither state is sunshine and rainbows. <br /><br />PS Izzy, I looked for you too - Maybe it is time I get on Twitter? Aw, Shit.Dawnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12920042208198309201noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15513876.post-19360371722265253152010-08-11T14:57:07.585-05:002010-08-11T14:57:07.585-05:00Very insightful. It's very sad when people ar...Very insightful. It's very sad when people are in barely there unhappy marriages-because there is so much you miss out on living in an unfulfilling relationship. That was me at one time. I am since divorced and remarried and I plan for it to stay that way. Don't we all though? Anyways, I applaud your maturity and selflessness in working out something for the sake of your daugther.CeCehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01390627453974953641noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15513876.post-59065722075793272922010-08-11T13:56:12.990-05:002010-08-11T13:56:12.990-05:00Thank you Dawn, I enjoyed this very much.Thank you Dawn, I enjoyed this very much.Michelle Khttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11397529787681989491noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15513876.post-48579785094321501482010-08-11T13:38:23.246-05:002010-08-11T13:38:23.246-05:00I can't believe I never saw you again for the ...I can't believe I never saw you again for the rest of the weekend. At those crazy conference things I've come to depend on texting and twitter to communicate with and find my friends and I had neither your phone # or your twitter name so instead I just looked for the loveliest ankles, most likely parked in the awesome-est shoes but alas, I did not spot you, which makes me a bit of a sad panda. <br /><br />I do have photos, though, which proves you were NOT just a fabulous figment of my imagination XOIzzyMomhttp://izzymom.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15513876.post-33059739786715210572010-08-11T13:09:30.859-05:002010-08-11T13:09:30.859-05:00Wonderfully written. Thank you.Wonderfully written. Thank you.Ashhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18279863835026068855noreply@blogger.com