tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15513876.post4050781388660258773..comments2024-02-12T09:07:37.691-06:00Comments on I am doing the best I can: To be or not to be BiracialDawnhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12920042208198309201noreply@blogger.comBlogger17125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15513876.post-11233375397198465462009-03-09T02:49:00.000-05:002009-03-09T02:49:00.000-05:00Very interesting post and good thoughts.Thanks. I ...Very interesting post and good thoughts.Thanks. I am biracial as my father is Indian and mother Finnish. I find that being biracial or biethnic, as I'd preferably call it, doesn't automatically bring anything but people's prejudices into the picture. The person in question has to capitalize on it.Rana Sinhahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08957385866727883675noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15513876.post-12570036610144824272009-02-16T09:46:00.000-06:002009-02-16T09:46:00.000-06:00great post...I too have Bi-racial kids. I feel yo...great post...I too have Bi-racial kids. I feel your pain.Angelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06245554563405436101noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15513876.post-61802703911479855322009-02-12T21:10:00.000-06:002009-02-12T21:10:00.000-06:00great post...all things i have though about too. (...great post...all things i have though about too. (i have bi-racial kids myself)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15513876.post-43825146893474921042009-02-07T00:59:00.000-06:002009-02-07T00:59:00.000-06:00I, being Habesha and African American, can underst...I, being Habesha and African American, can understand and appreciate your message; however, leave Tyler Perry out of the discussion...I fail to see how you see "one" family as sterotypical.<BR/><BR/>Stick to the subject you know about; thus post about. Just because you don't see your huband's family in any of Tyler Perry's plays or movies, doesn't mean he isn't speaking to issues that run like red thread in many African-American familys.<BR/><BR/>When my fellow collegues get together, yes, we laugh at the family members we see in Tyler Perry's movies. No, it's not a "black" thing that you have to understand, but it's a subject where you've gotten out of your lane.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15513876.post-59638407012079417772009-02-05T06:04:00.000-06:002009-02-05T06:04:00.000-06:00Just found your blog, as it was recommended to me ...Just found your blog, as it was recommended to me in my Google Reader. I think I've fallen in love with your blog. <BR/><BR/>This entry was especially well written and enlightened me on the topic of what it is like to be bi-racial or in a bi-racial couple. Very interesting. thanks for sharing your experiences.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15513876.post-72009189342895197522009-02-04T12:29:00.000-06:002009-02-04T12:29:00.000-06:00I think we all have the right to identify ourselve...I think we all have the right to identify ourselves as we see fit. I know that Obama calls himself black, so that's the way I'd describe him as well. At the same time, I think he's done a great job of honoring his white mom and grandparents, and he absolutely understands who his family is and where he comes from. I don't know whether or not he referrs to himself as bi-racial. But if he doesn't, I defintiely wouldn't see that as evidence of him trying to deny the importance/significance/relevance of his white mother.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15513876.post-37617220262749643262009-02-03T11:33:00.000-06:002009-02-03T11:33:00.000-06:00Oh and I forgot to ask if you would mind if I lin...Oh and I forgot to ask if you would mind if I link to your blog on my blog sidebar?<BR/><BR/>And also wanted to tell you to check out lightskinned girls blog. She is a biracial adult, who blogs and podcast's about growing up mixed and is authoring a novel about this very subject as well.<BR/><BR/>Charlotte-Chttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17748552473838329836noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15513876.post-58294374258009863512009-02-03T11:30:00.000-06:002009-02-03T11:30:00.000-06:00I too linked her from Cindy's blog- and am so happ...I too linked her from Cindy's blog- and am so happy I did. As a mom of a biracial kid this is a subject I often think about and apparently my 5 year old daughter ponders this issue too. I blogged about this very subject a while back, but you have hit the nail right on the head with this post. <BR/><BR/>If you need me you kind find me in your archives...<BR/><BR/>Charlotte-Chttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17748552473838329836noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15513876.post-13172891100710355392009-02-02T11:57:00.000-06:002009-02-02T11:57:00.000-06:00This is a great post! I found your blog through C...This is a great post! I found your blog through Cindy's link.<BR/><BR/>Biracial is such a kicker isn't it. <BR/><BR/>I don't know what to say. I keep going back and rereading your post. <BR/><BR/>Great post, great thoughts...<BR/><BR/>We have friends that the dad is Indian and the mom is Irish (redhead, pale and with freckles Irish) their first child they named after the dad...very ethnic name...at delivery they get a very Irish child, then she is pregnant again, they decide to name this child after her grandfather, this child looks exactly like his father. We talked endlessly about how the boys are going to struggle with people questioning whether they are brothers...and about how although neither child may "look it" but both are in fact biracial and how that will impact them...<BR/><BR/>again, great post...filolihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07629999858697015109noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15513876.post-1125216101576448352009-02-02T09:58:00.000-06:002009-02-02T09:58:00.000-06:00I totally agree with you. I am half Mexican and h...I totally agree with you. I am half Mexican and half Caucasian. I consider myself biracial. Or biethnic. And I always identified more with saying Barack Obama is biracial and I'm pretty sure it doesn't stem from anything sinister. I don't say I'm Mexican because I have a white father. And I don't say I'm white.<BR/><BR/>Why can't someone be both in terminology? Why do we have to compartmentalize? The world is too colorful and so many beautiful shades, all of them dark-light-in between, why can't our labels/mentality evolve...<BR/><BR/>Cindylos cazadoreshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08047753608490707714noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15513876.post-24625292584746181982009-02-01T18:57:00.000-06:002009-02-01T18:57:00.000-06:00Wow. I just came from la bells vita because I want...Wow. I just came from la bells vita because I wanted to see what your title referenced. As a black woman I think biracial is totally acceptable. Its also yall's choice and I think letting your child see all of her heritage is a beautiful thing. I have a coworker whose daughter is black, but very light because of her grandmother's tone, and a woman said to her, in front of me, "your daughter has such a beautiful skin tone!" I have to admit it made me feel some type of way. It just had a "way" about it that I didn't think she'd say the sar about a kid my shade.the joyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05802618412868607142noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15513876.post-46665296936474287252009-01-31T08:32:00.000-06:002009-01-31T08:32:00.000-06:00I agree with you...I am Asian, my hubby is white. ...I agree with you...I am Asian, my hubby is white. The kids look predominately Asian, largely because of their almond-shaped eyes and dark hair. But it offends me to call them only Asian, since that totally ignores 1/2 of their genes. I use the term Amer-Asian for mine and think bi-racial is just fine. BTW, I think that bi-racial children are the most beautiful. God knows what He's doing when our children are so gorgeous--He doesn't think that the races should "stick to their own" does He?cakeburnettehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02405378363107324973noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15513876.post-91225139856051115602009-01-31T02:20:00.000-06:002009-01-31T02:20:00.000-06:00I so, so relate to this. I am a white mix, like y...I so, so relate to this. I am a white mix, like yourself, and my someday-husband is full Korean. Which makes his genes totally dominant over mine when it comes to how our children will look, or so it seems. Have you ever seen Jon & Kate Plus 8 on TLC? Their dad is *half* Korean, yet the children could easily pass as full Asian.<BR/><BR/>I know this is sort of different that your situation, but the truth is, even if my kids look precisely 50/50, they will be lumped in with Asian, and likely relate to that race more than to mine.<BR/><BR/>Very interesting post!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15513876.post-59659363815480987532009-01-30T13:58:00.000-06:002009-01-30T13:58:00.000-06:00I totally agree with this. Very well said, Dawn.I totally agree with this. Very well said, Dawn.Fraulein Nhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16973894650450550769noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15513876.post-83907009052501663912009-01-29T19:26:00.000-06:002009-01-29T19:26:00.000-06:00So weird that you wrote about this today. I was li...So weird that you wrote about this today. I was literally JUST thinking about you and this specific topic while reading an article in this week's (Feb. 2 with the Obamas on the cover dancing at the inauguration ball) issue of Newsweek. The author is black and her husband white, but her sentiment is much the same as yours. Check it out if you can. Article by Raina Kelley on p. 41.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15513876.post-29171664699651610022009-01-28T19:42:00.000-06:002009-01-28T19:42:00.000-06:00I feel as you do. I know that most of America see...I feel as you do. I know that most of America sees Obama as "Black." But that isn't the whole story, and I think "Bi-racial" is a better descriptor and that it does not deny his Black heritage. I find it interesting the no one ever refers to him as "White," because that is as true as his blackness. But I know how the world sees things...Personally, I always say that he is "Hawaiian" because I think that says more about him than Bi-Racial or Black.SUEB0Bhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16301963922769609715noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15513876.post-1823185054414580872009-01-28T18:44:00.000-06:002009-01-28T18:44:00.000-06:00I've always found this topic fascinating. I think ...I've always found this topic fascinating. I think parents and those around the child have more problems with it than kids. <BR/><BR/>What makes someone white?<BR/><BR/>What makes someone black? <BR/><BR/>If a white person acts black, is he still white? <BR/><BR/>If a black person acts white are they still black? <BR/><BR/>If an Irishman and an Italian have a baby, is it Irish or Italian? Or is the child just a child with red hair and olive skin?<BR/><BR/>What if your bi-racial child were around middle-easterners? Would they say she looks Iranian, Israeli, Saudi? <BR/><BR/>I don't have a clue, but it is an interesting topic to see how we define our race. <BR/><BR/>KnotAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com