tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15513876.post5403180452443975842..comments2024-02-12T09:07:37.691-06:00Comments on I am doing the best I can: MidlifeDawnhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12920042208198309201noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15513876.post-66678010221346908342012-12-28T21:37:33.160-06:002012-12-28T21:37:33.160-06:00I don't know happy. But, I have a sneak feelin...I don't know happy. But, I have a sneak feeling that this, this emotion I have, I've had for some time, isn't it. But, really... I'm just not sure.Amandahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05908710843051928929noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15513876.post-70754291134253077692012-12-02T19:43:41.352-06:002012-12-02T19:43:41.352-06:00Folk Singer Will Putman, probably borrowing the me...Folk Singer Will Putman, probably borrowing the metaphor from author Wallace Stegner, described it as reaching one's "maximum angle of repose."<br /><br />I've felt that way many times as well. The older I get, the more I believe that there is no universal answer to finding happiness. <br /><br />I think that <a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/mihaly_csikszentmihalyi_on_flow.html" rel="nofollow">Csikszentmihalyi's</a> studies on the notion of "flow" point to a truth of sort. <br /><br />Being lost in the act of focused creation somehow allows us to transcend our darkness, and although we may not feel a state of "happiness" in the moment, we look back on those moments with greatest satisfaction.2amsomewherehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12343733349708172680noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15513876.post-30416364871366368092012-11-29T11:28:12.061-06:002012-11-29T11:28:12.061-06:00Some days I am really happy. I look at myself and ...Some days I am really happy. I look at myself and my life, and I realize that all the little things that make up my day are good. My husband loves me, my kids are healthy and strong, my house is warm and reasonably clean, my job makes me feel good about my abilities, my body fits into my clothes, my friends make me laugh. And I stop and think, "This right here is a good life." Sometimes it's just a day. Sometimes I can hold onto it for a week at a time. And then my mom unleashes her crazy on one of my kids, or my boss rips my report to shreds, or my MIL gets sick, or I can't make the mortgage payment without dipping into the savings acct, and then I don't feel so happy anymore. For a while. Until one day I do, again. But to answer your question directly, I'm a 37 year old married mother of 2, and I do, on occasion, feel happy. For me it feels like gratitude and acceptance and hope. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15513876.post-28774868199644982792012-11-29T07:45:19.120-06:002012-11-29T07:45:19.120-06:00From my experience, I've learned to just try a...From my experience, I've learned to just try and maintain something that's in the middle. I try not to get too excited or too down (I usually fail), but I try. <br /><br />The midlife crisis thing is a myth from what I've learned. And I think that "happiness" is different for everyone. I think we all have moments of joy here and there. When people say they are happy, I think they are more nutjobs than anything else. ;-)Rebeka https://www.blogger.com/profile/11856211362023835177noreply@blogger.com