We in ECE are not your cannon fodder

Friday, March 20, 2020

The inevitable has happened. The world economy has ground to a halt and the nation casts their eyes to whom? Child Care providers.

"Work! Keep Working! We need you to work so we can give you our children so we can work!"

I ask

"Where were you all when I had no health insurance? When I survived on 13,000 a year? Where were you when I would ask for a living wage to be told that I did unskilled labor that anyone could do?

Where were you when I got no sick time, and no vacation? When I came in sick with bronchitis or drove through dangerous conditions to get to my job so I could care for YOUR children?"

"But we need you! You are an essential service"

I ask

"Really? Because most of my work force lives in poverty. Many of us make minimum wage. Most make no more than $10 per hour if we are lucky. We qualify for SNAP benefits. We use food pantries. You've never paid me like I was an essential service. In fact you made me feel guilty for saying that I needed more money. You told me that I was greedy, that I wasn't in this for the money."

"But we can't work if you don't care for our kids! You can't be selfish! "

I pause.
"I am not selfish. However, you don't get to abuse me for decades and then turn around, point at me, and demand that I accommodate you."

"But who will care for those sick and dying?"

I exhale. 

"Who will care for me? Where is my protective gear? Why is my health less valuable?

When you pass new emergency laws raising adult to child ratios so I can take more children into my already crowded classrooms how does that help? Who does that help? Me? 

Are you unaware that children spread disease faster than any other age group? Have you not spent time with a group of eighteen 4-year-olds?  or eight infants? That crowding more children into those classrooms guarantee that more disease will spread?

What happens to me and my colleagues when we (inevitably) get sick? Who cares for MY children?"

I start to close my door. You jam your foot into it.

"You must work! We can talk about what you deserve later. You must work now"

I push the door close as I say:

"My profession and our bodies are not your cannon fodder. I told you this day would come and we told you, endlessly, that your economy runs off of our labor. You ignored me.

You stepped on me and my colleagues over and over and over.  People wrung their hands and said "Yes, you deserve so much more", but more never came. Our wages and benefits never increased. Our facilities never got better. We still have to spend our own money on paper, and paint, and glue, and kleenex, and snacks to feed these children that we love. We still have our own children to feed. For many of us we can not afford to send our children to the centers in which we work.

Your promises are empty.  You will forget about us as soon as this crisis passes. If you wanted to change this you could, but you are too busy telling us that it is all too expensive for you to do anything.

Care for your own children. We hear it is easy unskilled work not worth a living wage. Not worth health insurance. Not worth getting an education. "

I lock my door.

I am doing the best that I can

Wednesday, January 01, 2020

I wrote the below in November.  Egad, did I ever feel rotten. My lipase has started to come down and I am due for more tests in the next couple of weeks here in January 2020.  My body finally succumbed to the onslaught of insulin with the addition of an insulin sensitizer.  I am seeing fasting glucose numbers of 90 in the morning. 

It isn't pancreatic cancer, not that we can see from any of the million scans, blood draws or ultrasounds.  That, I think, was the first fear. Was my pancreas shutting down/eating itself because of a tumor or malignancy? That doesn't seem to be the problem but we still don't know just why all of this is happening. The tests continue.

As I head into my fifth decade, I have become acutely aware of my fragility. I know it sounds cliched, but I never considered aging. Not like this.  I knew, of course, that I was aging but the failure of my body was truly unexpected. My perimenopausal body bucks and kicks against it's confines, shocked at the ways in which I used to be effortlessly strong or renewable. 

I have spent the last two weeks of December 2019 ensconced in bed, reading and recharging.  It is almost time to begin the march to the beginning of the Spring semester and I am nearly ready.  I face this new decade with more humility than I have ever felt in my entire life. 

The beauty of youth is the sense that you are infallible, that you know everything and that the older adults in your life simply do not know of what they speak. That is a state of grace that allows youth to do amazing things, outside of what is considered possible.

The strange beauty of looking at 50 is that I am deeply aware that I know nothing and that I am crushingly mortal. 

I am doing the best that I can, and that is more than enough.


It's been a rough year, friends.

The kidney failure knocked me off of my axis for quite a while.  My summer was strange and I found I couldn't work as hard or as long in the garden as I had in previous summers.  I would get really tired after only two hours. I know - two hours! But that was far less than in summer past.

I was coping well with everything and have found myself to be more easy going about many things.  Some of that is age, I think. I am 49. I have tenure. My kid is in year 3 of college.  I have a cat who loves me.

Other things, though.

My knee hurts at odd times. It occasionally crosses my mind that heels aren't a super idea, but I push that thought WAY down deep since there is no way that I am not wearing the heels. Seriously. You will find my cold, dead broken ankled body before I give up the heels.

I was put on half the dosage of Metformin after the kidney fiasco. We supplemented that with a different med that was doing an OK job at controlling my blood sugar. I felt ...fine, I guess. Always really, really thirsty but I assumed that it was part of my kidney recovery.

In August, we spent some time in Cape Cod. We try to do a couple of weeks vacation before we launch Emily back to college.  Early in the week, I felt just awful. My stomach was in agony. I wrote it off to eating as if I was on vacation - you know minimal vegetables, lots of sugar and fried things. I dispatched Terrance for some Zantac ( since Prilosec is now on the "apparently can fuck a kidney" list).

Oof. It was bad. We would try for little trips, but I would have to cut us short because of the discomfort I was having.  We did make it through the Edward Gorey House, which made me happy.

As I am a trooper, I just take medication  and just suck it up.

This, gentle readers, is a mistake we can all see, right?  Dawn's body is flagging her down. Dawn says "It must be a virus" and keeps going. Dawn's body eventually falls apart.

Now, in my defense I now know kidney failure. I know the signs and the symptoms. There are NO signs of kidney failure. No pain. No ibuprofen use (sob). I am urinating just fine and as copiously as always.  Ergo, it must be a virus.

We drop Em off to college. We go home. I get ready to start the semester.  Boy, my stomach isn't feeling better. Still hurting all the time.  Like ALL the time.

By week three of the semester, I finally acquiesce and make an appointment to see my doctor.  The day before the appointment, I felt a little better and thought "Hmm, I should just cancel. It WAS a virus."

The morning of the visit, I was vomiting. And I was dizzy.  These are the exact things  I ignored before the kidney failure.  "Shit.", I think.

I get to the office.  My patient doctor is like "What the actual fuck, Dawn?" (not her exact words) and begins to order tests. I am to have blood taken and sit there in case my creatinine is rising and I have to be hospitalized again. "Oh shit," I think some more.  Now I am going to have to tell Terrance.

I text Terrance: "Have to have some blood tests. Will know more soon!" I resist throwing in smiling emoticons, hoping my exclamation point = careless optimism

The phone rings. It's Terrance. He is on his way. I attempt to protest. He ignores me.

We sit for an hour, waiting. As we sit there, a tech enters the room and states:  "I am supposed to start an IV on someone in this room."  I am confused and scared. "Are you?", I stammer.  "Are you sure?"

She leaves and I start to cry. "I was doing everything right! No ibuprofen. I can't drink any more water! There was no kidney pain at all!"

Terrance pats my arm.

My doctor comes in. My creatinine is actually great! I stare at her. I explain about the tech.  She laughs. No, that was a mistake, not for me.

BUT my lipase is through the roof!  What is happening with my lipase!

It seems that I had an acute pancreatitis attack in August. You know, no big. I am, it seems, continuing to have a lesser pancreatitis attack.

Do I fit the profile for a person to have pancreatitis? No, not at all!

Thus began the mystery of why Dawn's pancreas has decided to eat itself! As part of this mystery, we have had to take me off of all my diabetes medications, then retry things, then re-test my blood to see what is happening in Dysfunctional Pancreas Land. ( don't vacation there)

I've made friends with the lab techs since I see them every week.  I give informed and specific notes on where the best vein to hit might be, since I have fussy veins and I can now predict where they will hit best. I try to drink a full bottle of water before a blood draw because it plumps my stubborn veins up a bit more.

By October, this mystery had not abated. In fact, it had gotten weirder and more puzzling.  I am sent to an endocrinologist.  We go off the other diabetes agents, as they may irritate the pancreas. I am to try a tiny bit of Metformin for a week. Then another blood draw.

Now, my blood glucose levels have been atrocious since August. For reference, a diabetic should have numbers of about 180 at their 2 hour post meal test.  You should wake up and see a number at or under a 120 fasting blood glucose.  HAHAHHAHHHAHAAHA!

Waking up in the morning and having a fasting BS of 200 starts your day off on a shitty trajectory.  It means that anything I eat is going to send me spiraling up into the 300's.  When I am under-medicated, my glucose doesn't fall. I will get to 297 after dinner and then STAY there for 5 or 6 hours.  Last night, for instance,  when I ate at 5 p.m. I was 237 at 9 p.m. By 11:45, as I was getting ready to go to bed I was 197. 

You know that sleepy foggy feeling you can get when you have had a carb heavy meal? Yeah, I feel like that all the time. Headache. Foggy. Forgetful. Cranky.

I was placed on insulin when the last Lipase came back too high. It's doing nothing.  My glucose has gotten far worse while on the insulin.  As a Type 2 diabetic, my primary problem is insulin resistance. I make ( or have made ) enough insulin...my body just ignores it.  Metformin should not have caused the lipase spike. It only works on the liver, so the pancreas should be unaffected.


Two cuter kidneys

Wednesday, June 19, 2019

As I sat in my hospital room, lights low, I filtered this information - but slowly. Terrance, who had gone home for the evening, would need telling and I needed to do that gently.  He gets deeply rattled when I am truly sick, for I am never truly sick.  Even when I was diagnosed with diabetes I soldiered on, diligently taking on the task of glucose monitors and medications and tons more doctor visits.  When a mammogram came back sketchy, I soldiered on, soothing him with the statistics of this being a scare and not a true problem.

Later, a good friend described the moment when he appeared at the desk of our Admin Assistant to share that I was being admitted to the hospital and I would not be back to teach classes for the foreseeable future.

"I've never seen a human look like that.", she said.

I've just been told that I am in very bad shape - far worse than I thought and well beyond my optimistic assessment that I would be out in a day and we would all laugh because I'd just been dehydrated and I could go back to teaching by Thursday.

Terrance called a bit later and I braced myself for his barrage of questions. When he is scared or upset he can revert to his lawyer training, peppering you with a barrage of questions that you can't quite answer.

"Hi Hon. The nephrologist was just here." I pause. We both know that the nephrologist should not have been there at 9 p.m.

"It seems that I am in acute renal failure. We don't know why. We just have to wait and see what the fluids will do and if my creatinine comes down."

His questions come fast - does this mean dialysis? When will we know for sure? Why did this happen?

I don't know, I don't know, I don't know.

"Don't tell Emily yet. I don't want to freak her out. She is in the middle of final exams and she is already freaked out about my being in the hospital."

This, readers, is an understatement. My daughter is positively violet with fear and worry. I get texts every 5 minutes begging for updates. I refuse video chats because if she sees me in the hospital bed, hooked to an aggressively beeping and humming IV, she is going to absolutely lose her shit. She is in New Hampshire. She will be home in a week. She needs to focus on her final exams.

"This is my worst fear", she says later. "Like, Mom. I have had nightmares about this - not being able to get to you and you are dying and I can't get there."

I soothe her too.  I am fine. I am being taken care of, there is nothing she could do even if she was here. I am in the best place for me to be in this situation. Focus on her final exams. Everything is fine.
This is the mantra of most mothers. Things are all right. Nothing is unsolvable. Our unflappability is an anchor for our children. We are their herd leader. Our fear becomes their fear and they do not need to fear.

I am not fine, of course. I am shaken.  On the day I am turning 49, I was unknowingly beginning to die - quietly and slowly but the path was actively being constructed.  As it was my first real brush with my mortality it is deeply disquieting. I mean, sure, we all consider our mortality, but it is abstract even when it encompasses the deaths of family members or friends or acquaintances.  We all hope for deaths that are predictable coming when we feel as if we have had enough time to be on the earth to accomplish everything we had hoped to accomplish.  We want a clean death, pain free and not messy. A sneaky death that you don't see coming? No.  I have been snuck up on by my body and I do not like it.

I sleep fitfully. Hospitals are terrible places to sleep and even my sleeping medication is not keeping me asleep.  Not to mention that the VAST amounts of saline being pumped through my system demands that I empty my bladder every 20 minutes.  When I sleep for a little over an hour, I am amazed to see that I urinate 20 OUNCES of fluid. Nearly a whole water bottle full of urine. I had no idea my bladder was so robust. In the end, I have about 7 gallons of saline moved through my body.

By the morning, my creatinine is dropping. Slowly but surely. There is a smidge of movement in the right direction. The doctors look happier. I ask - for the last time - when I can go home.  They look at me sternly and make no promises.  It is clear that I need to accept that I am in here for a while.

I become accustomed to the routine - unhooking the IV, wheeling to the bathroom, coming back, replugging the IV and getting back in bed, careful to not tangle the lines or displace the needle. I take a shower, an extensive plastic sleeve covering the IV port, and trying to wash with one hand. It wasn't awesome, but it helped.  Visitors come and stay for awhile. I am deeply grateful for the distraction. I read, I manage panicked freshman who are registering from afar. I plan for how my classes are going to finish their last week and a half without me, how presentations are going to get done and how good enough is fine.

The following morning my nurse is pleased. "Have they told you your numbers?" No, I hadn't seen anyone yet that morning and I had actually slept in a bit. My creatinine numbers are continuing to decrease nicely.  It seems that the massive push of saline into my blood had woken my kidneys up and they were operating again. That meant no biopsy. No more white blood cells in my urine.  I am eating some small meals.

A final day, it is decided, to make sure my numbers continue to decrease and hold. The IV is slowed and then taken out. I am wildly grateful to have the use of both arms again. Later, the bruises will bloom up and down both arms, flowers of purple and blue planted in haste.

I cry again as I am given advance directive paperwork to complete.  These things are concrete and final. I am being asked to not only consider my death, but to plan in advance for the eventuality.  I am controlled until the question about "Is there something you want to say to someone in the even you are unable to speak?"  I sob. SOB.

Yes. Yes. Yes, but it can not be contained on this paper. I can not commit to this question. It is too big, too amorphous. It is beyond my human capacity to distill into words.  I leave that section blank.

The rest I read aloud to Terrance, getting his consent to the things I ask him to consider.  How I want to die, what parameters I can control and his possible role in facilitating those wishes is a conversation we have never seriously had in the course of our relationship. While necessary, it is unnerving for both of us.

When I am released from the hospital, I am unsteady. While now deemed physically OK, I am more emotionally fragile than I knew.  I have a panic attack that evening, convinced that my kidneys are shutting down again and I won't know and die.  Simultaneously, I know this is a reaction that is in my mind and not my body.

It's been a bit over a month now. I am doing well. The medications that could have caused this have been removed from rotation. No ibuprofen or naproxen ever again- Pour one out for my beloved Liqui-gels. I mourn them. Metformin was taken away, then reintroduced at a much smaller dose.  No more Prilosec or its cousins.  My blood sugars soar and we have to do a different medication to eventually get it under control. We do another creatinine test because we always do more creatinine tests.  I am .88. Perfect kidney numbers.

I joked that I now know what kidney failure feels like. Terrance does not find this funny. He monitors me closely and when I don't feel well, he asks a litany of questions to assess if this is a passing thing or the prelude to something more serious.  I drink water, so much water.  I am still a little slower than I feel I should be at this stage in the summer. I get a bit more tired. I try to be more gentle with myself when I don't get as much done as I'd hoped, reminding myself that I was very sick even if I don't admit it. I travel alone, for the first time post hospital, and find myself in a hotel room worried that I am feeling pain in my kidneys and terrified that I will be away from home and go back into kidney failure.  There is a bit of post traumatic stress that, while disconcerting, is also perfectly normal.

I wish I had a grand pronouncement, but I don't.  Listen to your bodies, my friends.  We are more fragile than we realize, especially as we move solidly into middle age with all of it's accompanying insults, aches and pains. (Ask me about my rando aching knee!) Make sure you are peeing. Drink water. Don't take too much ibuprofen, they aren't kidding about the kidney thing.

Take care of yourselves. I would miss you if you were gone.

A cute kidney

Saturday, May 11, 2019

On Monday, April 29th, I turned 49 years old.

On Tuesday April 30th, I was admitted to the hospital with acute renal failure.

They didn't know that at first, of course.  The ER doctor, though I am sure well meaning, was fairly dismissive of my description of my symptoms.  I was trying to explain that my dizziness had become so pronounced that I could move only if I stared down at my feet and never looked up. I explained that my appetite was gone, and I was only eating one very small meal a day. Oatmeal. I didn't even have a cupcake for my birthday, because I felt so bad.

I explained that on Monday I'd tried to teach class, but had to sit down because of the dizziness. That quickly became dry heaving, then full body sweating leading to my releasing class early because I was not doing well.  The poor startled and concerned students were rather beside themselves.

I described that on Saturday I had dry heaved and vomited a little in the parking lot at Walmart. I did this while a man in a white truck watched me, and Terrance looked on with concern.

Yes, of course I was drinking fluids. That's all I could do, really. Green Tea and Water. No, I hadn't been sleeping either but who can tell with a 49 year old body. Sometimes you just wake up and stay awake.

The ER doctor told me that I could control the dizziness with over the counter medications! Why he too suffered from Vertigo - Right now, even!

Could it be ear infections, I asked? Maybe some kind of weird ear infection that was making me so dizzy? Grudgingly, he looked. Nope, no ear infections.

He left me alone on the ER bed, feeling foolish and overreactive.  Nurses came in. They took more vitals, someone took blood.  When it was determined that I was dehydrated, a kind man came and got an IV started. He was very kind and patient, as my veins were just about invisible and he had to work hard to find any place to get this started. After he was successful I asked, "Can you get my husband? He's in the waiting room."

Terrance arrived. He sat down and asked me what the doctor had said. I shared that he thought I must be dehydrated and there were no ear infections.

Now, what I am not explaining here is my utter insistence that I am fine.  This is a little virus. Maybe a small bacterial infection.

I am *always* like this. ALWAYS.  Everything is no big deal.  Earlier this spring right before class was starting, I ran to the washroom and vomited profusely. I hadn't realized that the door had kicked itself open, meaning that ALL of my students got to hear me vomiting profusely. In fact, the whole first floor got to listen to me puking.

As I returned to class, I faced an entire room of startled students who just put together that the person they had just listened to was, in fact, their professor. 

Readers, I taught the class. For the full 2 hours.

For me to say "I think I need to go to Urgent Care" is the white flag of defeat in Dawn world.

A nurse came in and asked me to take out my earrings as they wanted to do a MRI to make sure I wasn't having some kind of tumor or stroke issue.  I lay there feeling utterly ridiculous. I was just dizzy, terribly dizzy.  And nauseated.

They wheeled me back into the room. I lay there, eyes closed.  Terrance stared at the walls.

Here is where the dramatic moment of hospital shows happened. The doctor whips open the curtain and exclaims that my blood tests are showing something very wrong and they are admitting me right now.  People appear. More things are done. Terrance is handed my purse and told to go get things from home because I am being wheeled upstairs now.

Truthfully, I am now feeling guilty because this is all a bit much. For some dizziness?  I've had two liters of saline pushed into my body in such rapid succession that when they hook up the third, I am confused because I thought we had just started the 2nd one. I am transferred into a hospital bed. I am covered in warmed blankets.  I lay there and begin calculating how much this is going to cost us and how soon I can get out of there because we have a child in college and I can not afford a 20K hospital bill.

Sidenote: Thanks, American medical and political systems for that extra tidbit of stress.  As if I am taking a spa break, or a fancy vacation,  I worry about the cost of the bill for my portion of the hospital admission.  In fact, I begin to cry in the hospital because I am thinking of how much this is going to cost.  I apologize to my husband when he arrives because this is going to cost too much.

The first doctor arrives.  The next bag of saline is being hooked up and pushed through my body.  My doctor says they aren't quite sure what is happening yet.  Something is going on with my kidneys but they don't know what. They are going to keep pushing saline. A nephrologist has been called.

Terrance arrives with a backpack full of things. We sit in silence as I cry about the cost and he reassures me. The IV pump hums aggressively.  After about 7 hours of continuous IV fluids, my appetite returns in the smallest way.  With the nausea controlled with medication, I might want to eat a little.  I want a salad. I want a little hamburger. Maybe even a few fries.  Terrance does what he does best - he manages food for me.

The nurse smiles when she sees me eating, even if it isn't much.  It's good.  I still can't stand without getting dizzy, but I am peeing lots now. My indignity is enhanced by the fact that I have to pee into the "hat", a large plastic container that measures my urine.

I am wildly grateful that I went with the boy shorts underwear instead of the usual thong given my hospital gown and the frequency with which I am now peeing.

I am still optimistic that this is just all an overreaction and I am fine. Terrance goes home for the night.

The nephrologist arrives at 9 p.m.  I am laying in bed actually trying to grade papers and respond to  emails from panicked freshman asking about registration. ( See: Dawn's inability to admit she is ill, above)

This startles me for a couple of reasons. First, I was told that he wouldn't see me until tomorrow since he had left for the day. Second, he seems *very* serious.

He is kind. He is clear. He does not talk down to me. He takes a history, asking me about medications, health, any changes I had observed in my general well being.  He then starts talking me through what they suspect has happened.

My kidney's, he explains, had simply stopped working. When I arrived at the Urgent Care that morning, I was in acute renal failure. I had lost 95% of my kidney functions by the time I was admitted. A few more hours of waiting and I would have been in the ICU.  He explained that they weren't sure if this was reversible yet and that they would need to wait and see my numbers in the morning. The ultrasound of my kidneys and bladder showed no tumors or obvious blockages, so it could be an infection inside the kidney, or a combination of other factors.  A biopsy may be needed.

After he left I sat in my very dim room and considered my fragility. This was the moment that I got scared.

Roots and Wings

Sunday, April 28, 2019

The baby bird is leaving the nest. Well, not really, but she is testing her wings.

On Friday, Emily walked to school ....“Alone”. Of course this means that Terrance trailed her to school, keeping a not unsubtle distance between she and he as he pretended to be out for a jog.

Upon his return from said jog, he reported that she walked with confidence the 3 blocks to school. Then he sent me to the school at noon to make sure she was really IN school. When I picked her up at 3:30, she was all smiles. “How was the walk to school?”, I asked her as she hopped into the car.

“Good. Daddy followed me the whole way you know.”She said this without irritation or indignation at being granted her independence....but not quite. I paused and listened for tone, as the nuances of my daughter are becoming more shaded and obscure. No tone was forthcoming and I did not deny that her father had indeed followed her to school. We both knew he had.

Later on at dinner, she casually mentioned to him that she knew of his poorly concealed attempts at
covert surveillance . His blustery attempts to deny the facts made it only that much more obvious. She accepted his denials with a world weary grace that took me aback. It was then that I realized that our daughter has come to understand that she must be patient with her parents as we learn to let her fly. Our intent is not to stifle her growth, although it sometimes may feel that way to her. She is secure
in the knowledge that we love her wholly and that everything we do is done to protect and encourage her. This knowledge allows her to accept some of the perceived indignities of being a child as acts of
love and caring. We, in turn, see this acknowledgment as indications of her growing maturity and need to stretch and grow.

This push and pull is a wonderful, terrible thing. Our dance of mother, father and daughter is growing
more complex and entangled with every passing day. We – the mother and father – find her struggles for autonomy both thrilling and maddening, for we never know how much to give or how much to curtail, and more often than not we are at odds with each other about what she can handle and where she needs support.

Today, however, she told us exactly what she needs.

After deciding to walk to school on her own yesterday, she invited her father to walk with her today. 

Her decision. Her terms. Her wings.

September 17, 2007 Gimlet Eye

Dark chocolate and espresso

Sunday, April 21, 2019

Sometimes I get very tired of being a Mom.

I know, I know.

Not for long. Usually a good sleep, or latte will bring me back to myself.

However, it is the moments when you have said "Get ready for school" for the 18th time, or picked up the underwear off the bathroom floor, or had the same round about argument with the 8 year old about whether or not you signed her permission slip ( come on! Of course I signed it!)

and you think...."When do I get my life back? Will I ever get my life back?"

Because you don't think so, really - you suspect that this goes deeper than you thought as you were deciding to get pregnant and have a baby. That this is the hidden part of the deal.

That this person, whom you adore and who makes you laugh like no one else - This person, who leaves her underwear on the floor everyday- This person, who turns her nose up at the food you have prepared and tells you that your breath smells bad....Well, you would step in front of a truck for this person.

And that freaks you out, a little.

Because as much as you sometimes wish for this person to grow up and leave the nest, you realize that the nest is getting smaller and your baby is much bigger.  That pretty soon, this person who can't keep her damn clothes ON will stop letting you see her naked.

And like very good dark chocolate and espresso, this makes for delicious bittersweet thoughts.

Undercover Picniker

Wednesday, April 17, 2019

Tonight, I led my daughter from the path of righteousness.

Yes. I secreted food and beverage in her backpack and had her carry it into the movie theatre.

The movie being Harry Potter, of course.

I lay out the plan in the car after stopping to pick up sandwiches. I mean, in my defense....Summer Camp ended at 4 p.m. The movie was downtown on St Catherine. It started at 4:30 p.m. The next showing wasn't until 7 p.m. - and I knew that she could not eat dinner that late - nor was she making a massive tub of popcorn her meal. Plus going into the movie at 7 would get us out at 10...and home by nearly 11 p.m. No way I was handling the exhausted puddle she would become by that time of night.

So, we ran into the sandwich shop and got a couple to go.

"Look", I tell her in the car. "The movie people don't really want you to bring food in - at least not food that you haven't bought THERE in the movie - so we have to be kind of ....not Obvious about bringing it in..."

The truth of what I am saying sinks in.

She weighs this. "What if they find them?", she asks.  She is, after all, a rule follower.

"I don't know, but I don't think they will take our sandwiches - I mean they're just sandwiches!"

I begin to feel kind of bad, inducing my child into being my accomplice in the illegal transport of bread and meat and vegetables. And a couple of bottled waters.

I look at my purse. I wish I had brought a bigger purse. I look around and see her backpack.

"Ah", I think, "the ubiquitous child's backpack...."

Being opening week, they will undoubtedly search my bag. Montreal is, apparently, a hot bed of illegal taping in theaters. Indeed, a security team is at each of the doors of the  screens showing  Harry Potter. You show your ticket, they check your bag...and then they walk up and down the stadium seating, making sure no one has whipped out the video-phone to capture Old Harry in his 5th year.

I sigh. This moral dilemma is bigger than I wanted at 4:22 p.m. on a Thursday afternoon.

I decide to go with the "Don't ask, Don't Tell" Policy. I pack her backpack and carry it down the street. I suppose the worst they can do is take our sandwiches.

We get our tickets at 4:32 and race up the escalator to the FIRST theater. I present our tickets to the security team. They look in my bag....and completely ignore her backpack.

We walk in past the doors and Emily,  in true nine year old fashion says (loudly):

"WOW! They didn't even look in my backpack!"

Mata Hari, she's not.

July 13, 2007 Gimlet Eye
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