"What's that, Dr. Ferber?"

Monday, May 22, 2006


"You're taking back some of what you said about the family bed? That's right, be-yotch. Eat your words you pompous motherfucker, just as I eat my delicious birthday meal at our favorite sushi joint. I will crush you and all your child development expert friends, just as I have crushed my mother and her professional ideas. Fear Me!!"

22 Baleful Regards:

Andrea said...

I love it. Love it! It's always satisfying when some know-it-all comes out and says he was wrong. Ha! (little jig being done over here.)

Diana said...

*F-You Ferber!*
Anyway, she looks like an expert with those chopsticks, hope she had a good birthday!

C.ELLA said...

You made my day as I spent the week-end playing musical beds. It is a rare thing for anyone to sleep in "their" bed in our house.

If your daughter and my children meet it will be the end for us all.

Your daughter is adorable. My husband's bday was yesterday and my son's is tomorrow.

mothergoosemouse said...

She is just beautiful. Happy Birthday Em!

As someone who spent last night being kicked by her own child, and who doesn't give a shit what the so-called experts say, do what works.

Piece of Work said...

Happy Birthday! I love that Dr. Ferber called your daughter just to let her know.

Gurukarm Kaur said...

From the linked article: "Dr. Harkness, who has conducted cross-cultural research on infant sleep habits in several countries, said no studies have borne out the connection originally drawn by Dr. Ferber and others between teaching babies to sleep alone and their ability to develop autonomy.
'It's an American myth,' Dr. Harkness said. 'It's fine to think about training children to be independent, but there has been this misguided effort to extend it to an area where it's really not developmentally appropriate.' "

YEAH! I love it. My kids slept with us from infancy well into 6-8+ (not every night, but whenever they wanted, in those older years, and not always in the bed, sometimes they'd "camp out" on the floor) and I guarantee you will not find any MORE independent and psychologically-sound kids than these two. "Independence" for babies - bah!

Mignon said...

I've had an intense and not-so-private hatred for Dr. Ferber from the moment I heard about his sadist sleep doctrine. And all those finger-shaking articles in the glossy commercial magazines that perpetuate his Draconian philosophy.

If only your adorable girl-baby was giving him the finger in that shot...

Happy Birthday, beautiful!

Jess Riley said...

Your daughter is gorgeous! Looks like she was truly enjoying her birthday meal. :)

("Fear me!!" hehehehe!!!)

Jaelithe said...
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Jaelithe said...

How awkward for him.

"By the way-- you know back when I contradicted a parenting technique practiced by literally billions of mothers through millenia since the dawn of our species? Yeah, uh, [nervous chuckle] it seems I might have been kind of wrong about that. Might've, kind of, made an entire generation or two of mothers in a populous modern country feel really awful about themselves and their parenting skills for no good reason. Also may have caused lots of really adorable, perfectly sweet little babies to cry, erm, a lot more than they should've had to . . . So, anyway, sorry about that, but, hey! Water under the bridge. Now, let's talk some more about how since I'm a man and I have a degree and a publishing contract I still know more about parenting than mothers everywhere!"

(Sorry-- my original version of this was embarassingly typo-rific as I was trying to yell at a kid while typing it, so I fixed it for y'all).

mama_tulip said...

Fuck you, Ferber.

LOL.

Jenny said...

Happy Birthday!

madge said...

I'm assuming this is a picture of her fourteenth birthday, what with the cell phone and mastery of chopsticks.

Gorgeous. Happy birthday, Em.

Lisa said...

She is SO beautiful! Yeay Em. Yeay Mom, you just survived another year. (We should get presents for that sort of thing, yes?)

Elizabeth said...

She is just beautiful! And whatever she's eating looks good.
Ferber is an ass. Some kids want to sleep with Mom and Dad, some kids are okay to sleep alone. Do what works.

wordgirl said...

Well...she's gorgeous! And the Playmobile? I've got bins of that shit out in storage!! I remember those days so well!

Lena said...

Let me be the lone ranger that says "HOW THE HELL DO YOU HAVE A SEX LIFE IF YOUR KIDS ARE FREAKIN ALL OVER YOUR BED?"

And don't tell me you do "wherever and whenever" because I just can't believe that.

Dawn, your daughter is BEE-U-TIFUL. As I imagined she would be. ;)

Anonymous said...

Hells yeah.

~Jenny
http://blogs.chron.com/mamadrama/

jen said...

Happy Birthday, D to the Awn!

Dawn said...

Oh Lena, we don't have sex with her IN the bed. She actually starts out in her bed every night until about 11 or 12, when she migrates in with us.

And of course, when she wasn't mobile we simply left her in her crib - screaming - KIDDING! Well, it was easier to not worry about getting walked in on...

But yeah. I was watching her eat her tempura, and talking on the cell phone and thought - "Holy shit - she's a big girl. She's a Kid!" Those moments still shock me somehow. 8 years ago, she was attacking my breast. Now, she has chopsticks and a cell phone...

Nancy said...

She does look like a big girl in her pose and demeanor. But you can still see a hint of the little Em in her face.

She is really beautiful, Dawn.

jen said...

I never said I was bri-iiigght. Happy birthday EM-I-LY. EMILY. Right.

Oh, this morning I saw on the upper right hand of the front page of the Globe the line "CRY, BABY" and the ferber eating shit reference and thought of you.

 
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